10个接吻的科学益处

接吻的10大科学好处接吻可能是我们表达对他人情感的最原始的方式。我们亲吻婴儿的可爱胖胖面孔，脸颊上的朋友以及嘴唇上的情人，以展示我们对亲密的感觉和渴望。我们亲吻婴儿可爱的胖脸，朋友的脸颊，和爱人的嘴唇，以显示我们的感情和亲密的愿望粘接。尽管有很多明显的乐趣，但在科学的支持下，也有一些显着的健康益处。接吻有很多明显的乐趣也有一些显着的得到科学的支持健康状况。1.接吻释放良好的荷尔蒙。接吻会释放感觉良好的荷尔蒙Kissing activates the brain’s reward system, releasing neurotransmitters like oxytocin, "the love hormone," and vasopressin, which bonds mothers with babies and romantic partners to each other. It also releases endogenous opioids, dopamine, and other helpful neurohormones to keep our moods balanced.接吻激活大脑的奖励系统，释放神经递质，如催产素，"爱情激素" 和后叶增压素它把母亲和婴儿以及浪漫恋人联系在一起。它还释放内源性阿片类药物、多巴胺和其他有用的神经激素，以保持我们的情绪平衡。2. THOSE FEEL-GOOD HORMONES HAVE HEALING ABILITIES.那些感觉良好的荷尔蒙有治愈能力。According to a 2005 study in Neuroendocrinology Letters, "[Love, pleasure, and lust have a stress-reducing and health-promoting potential, since they carry the ability to heal or facilitate beneficial motivation and behavior." In other words, by reducing your stress hormones, your body can better focus on healing any physiological processes that are exacerbated by stress, and help contribute to more positive mental health and behavior.根据2005年神经内分泌学的一项研究，爱、快乐和欲望可以减轻压力和促进健康的潜力，因为他们具有治愈或促进有益的动机和行为的能力。换句话说，通过减少压力荷尔蒙，你的身体可以更好地专注于治愈任何因压力而加剧的生理过程，并有助于促进更积极的心理健康和行为。3. KISSING MAKES YOU MORE ALERT.接吻能让你更警觉Kissing often stimulates the release of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Not only do these chemicals make you feel excited by increasing your heart rate, they make you more alert, as your body prepares for action … of any kind.接吻通常刺激肾上腺素和去甲肾上腺素或降肾上腺素的释放。这些化学物质不仅让你感到兴奋，通过增加你的心率，他们让你更警觉，因为你的身体准备准备好了任何形式的行动。4. KISSING CAN REDUCE YOUR STRESS LEVELS.接吻可以减轻你的压力According to affection exchange theory, as mentioned in a 2009 study in the Western Journal of Communication [PDF], physical exchanges of affection, including kissing, "buffer the individual against the physiological effects of stress." The researchers found that expressed affection, of which kissing is a prime example, was directly related to lowering the stress hormone cortisol throughout the day.根据《西方通讯杂志》2009年的一项研究中提到的情感交换理论爱的身体交流包括接吻，缓冲个体对压力的生理影响。研究人员发现，表达爱情，其中接吻是一个典型的例子，它直接关系到降低压力激素皮质醇一整天。5. REDUCING YOUR STRESS COULD LOWER YOUR CHOLESTEROL LEVELS.减轻你的压力可以降低你的胆固醇水平。The same study authors theorize that if affectionate behavior reduces stress, "then it is logical to predict that it will also effect improvements on physiological parameters that are exacerbated by stress" such as cholesterol. Cholesterol has a number of essential physiological functions, they write, "including maintaining membrane fluidity, producing bile, and contributing to the metabolism of fat-soluble vitamins." It’s also "largely responsible" for the production of steroid hormones, such as cortisol, aldosterone, progesterone, the estrogens, and testosterone.同一研究作者理论认为，如果充满感情的行为减轻了压力，"那么预测它也会对因压力而加剧的生理参数（如胆固醇）产生改善是合乎逻辑的"。他们写道，胆固醇具有许多基本的生理功能，"包括保持膜流动性，产生胆汁，以及促进脂溶性维生素的新陈代谢。它也"主要负责"类固醇激素的生产， 如皮质醇， 阿尔多斯特酮， 黄体酮， 雌激素， 和睾酮.6. KISSING CAN REDUCE YOUR ALLERGY SYMPTOMS.接吻可以减少你的过敏症状。Allergic responses can be aggravated by stress. Since kissing reduces stress by sending those feel-good hormones mentioned earlier to the brain, as well as alleviating cortisol, a 2003 Japanese study in Physiology and Behavior explored the relationship between the stress-lowering activity of kissing on allergic reactions. Ninety participants were evenly divided into three groups: 30 with atopic dermatitis, 30 with allergic rhinitis, and 30 in a control group. In the study, the subjects, whom the authors noted "do not kiss habitually," kissed for 30 minutes with their partner in a private room while listening to soft music. They found that at the end of their smooch sessions, the participants experienced significant relief from skin wheals (hives) and plasma neurotrophin levels (a sign of allergic reaction) associated with Japanese cedar pollen and house dust mites. In 2015, this study won an Ig Nobel prize.过敏反应可能因压力而加重。由于接吻通过将之前提到的那些感觉良好的激素发送到大脑，以及减轻皮质醇来减轻压力，2003年日本生理学和行为学研究探讨了接吻对过敏反应的减压活动之间的关系。90名参与者被平均分为三组：30人患有特异性皮炎，30人患有过敏性鼻炎，30人患有对照组。在这项研究中，作者指出"不要习惯性地接吻"，在听柔和音乐时，与伴侣在私人房间里接吻了30分钟。他们发现，他们发现在接吻结束时，参与者从皮肤湿度（蜂巢）和血浆神经营养素水平（过敏反应的迹象）中体验到与日本雪松花粉和家尘虫相关的显著缓解。2015年，这项研究获得了搞笑诺贝尔奖。7. KISSING MIGHT BOOST YOUR IMMUNITY.接吻可能会提高你的免疫力When you kiss someone on the lips you exchange bacteria. This can either make you sick, or it can help boost your immunity by exposing you to new germs that strengthen your immune system's ability to fight these bacteria. A 2014 study in the journal Microbiome found that couples who kissed frequently were more likely to share the same microbiota in their saliva and on the surface of the tongue. How frequently? At least nine times per day.当你亲吻某人的嘴唇时，你会交换细菌，这要么让你生病，要么它可以帮助提高你的免疫力，让你接触新的细菌，加强你的免疫系统的能力，以对抗这些细菌。2014年在《微生物群》杂志上的一项研究发现，经常接吻的夫妇更有可能在唾液和舌头表面共享相同的微生物群。接吻的频率是多少？每天至少九次8. A KISS A DAY MIGHT KEEP THE DENTIST AWAY.一天一个吻可能会让牙医远离你。The act of kissing stimulates your salivary glands to produce saliva, the fluid that moistens the mouth to make swallowing easier. Saliva also helps remove cavity-causing particles that stick in your teeth after eating. So while it might be a stretch to say kissing prevents cavities, it can’t hurt.接吻的行为刺激你的唾液腺产生唾液，这种液体滋润了嘴巴，使吞咽更容易。唾液还有助于去除进食后粘在牙齿上的致蛀颗粒。因此，虽然说接吻可以防止蛀牙可能有点牵强，但不会造成任何伤害。9. KISSING MIGHT HELP YOUR DETERMINE THE COMPATIBILITY OF YOUR MATE.接吻可能有助于你确定伴侣的相容性。Perhaps the way you know you’ve found the one has nothing to do with their eyes, kind words, or the way they romance you, but very subtle cues you pick up through kissing. According to a 2013 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, kissing "might facilitate the subconscious appraisal of a potential mate by utilizing pheromonal cues to assess genetic … compatibility, general health, underlying genetic fitness or menstrual cycle phase and fertility." (Note the "might" here—we still haven't found evidence of human pheromones.) In fact, the authors write, in a handful of societies where mouth-to-mouth partner contact is unknown or frowned upon, such as the Mehinaku of Brazil (in fact, only 46 percent of cultures are known to kiss romantically), romantic partners still engage in "kissing traditions of close face-to-face contact involving sniffing, licking or rubbing."也许你找到真命天子的方式，和他们的眼睛、甜言蜜语、对你的浪漫方式没有关系但是非常微妙的线索，你可以通过接吻得到。根据2013年《性行为档案》的一项研究，接吻"可能通过利用信息素线索来评估遗传学，从而促进对潜在伴侣的潜意识评估。相容性、一般健康、基本的遗传适应性或月经周期阶段和生育能力。（请注意这里的"可能"——我们还没有找到人类信息素的证据。）事实上，作者写道，在少数对口伴侣接触不为人知或不赞成的社会，如巴西的梅希纳库、梅希纳库或梅希内科是巴西的土著人民。口对口的伙伴接触是未知的或令人不快的，如巴西的梅希纳库梅希纳库或梅希纳科是巴西的土著人民。（事实上，只有46%的文化是已知的浪漫接吻），浪漫伴侣仍然按照"传统的接吻方式脸紧贴脸，嗅探，舔或摩擦。”10. KISSING MIGHT IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION.接吻可能会提高你们的关系满意度The same study authors suggest that romantic kissing, as well as other forms of physical contact, can strengthen feelings of attachment to the person you're kissing, increasing the feeling of relationship satisfaction between romantic partners. And a 2013 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that more frequent kissing was linked to couples’ perceived feelings about the quality of a relationship—namely, the more kissing, the happier they were—which was not the case for more sex.同一研究作者认为，浪漫接吻以及其他形式的身体接触可以增强对你接吻者的依恋感，增加浪漫伴侣之间的关系满意度。2013年《性行为档案》的一项研究发现，更频繁的接吻与夫妻对一段关系质量的感知感觉有关——即接吻越多，越快乐——这并不是更多的性生活。8 health benefits of kissing接吻对健康有8个好处Kissing can be a heart-healthy micro workout, a hormone releaser and a mood booster.接吻可以是一种心脏健康的微锻炼，一种激素释放剂和情绪助推器。https://edition.cnn.com/2014/01/14/health/upwave-kissing/index.htmlthe kiss It can be so many things: sweet, loving, awkward, intense, transporting, disappointing, boring, sublime, life altering.吻有很多种可能： 甜蜜， 爱， 尴尬， 激烈， 交流， 令人失望， 无聊， 崇高， 改变生活。On the delicious and passionate side of the spectrum, a smooch can be a heart-healthy micro workout, a hormone releaser and a mood booster. It's also fun -- and a great way to connect with the person you care about.从美味和充满激情方面讲，拥吻可以是一个心脏健康的微锻炼，激素释放器和情绪助推器。这也很有趣，也是与你关心的人联系的好方法。"Sex, as wonderful as it is, can be perfunctory," says Andréa Demirjian, author of "Kissing: Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about One of Life's Sweetest Pleasures." "Kissing is intimate: You're right there in the space of your soul. It gets to the core of your heart and spirit because it's such a lovely way to express and receive love and affection. A kiss a day really can keep the doctor away."接吻：你曾经想知道的关于人生最甜蜜快乐之一》一书的作者安德烈娅·德米尔坚说："性，虽然很美妙，但可能是敷衍了事。"接吻是亲密的：你就在你的灵魂空间。它到达了你心灵和精神的核心因为这是以可爱方式表达爱和接受爱。一天一个吻真的可以让医生远离1. Kissing helps reduce blood pressure接吻有助于降低血压Making out isn't just good for your emotional heart, it gives your anatomical one a workout, too. "Kissing passionately gets your heartbeat revved in a healthy way that helps lower your blood pressure," says Demirjian. "It dilates your blood vessels -- blood is flowing in a good, solid fashion and getting to all your vital organs."制作出来不仅对你情绪化的心有好处，它也会给你的解剖心脏一个锻炼。Demirjian 说："热情地接吻会以健康的方式加速心跳，有助于降低血压。"它扩张你的血管 - 血液以良好、坚实的方式流动， 到达你所有重要的器官。2. Kissing zaps cramps and headaches接吻缓解痉挛和头痛"Kissing is great if you have a headache or menstrual cramps," says Demirjian. You may be inclined to wave away advances when you're curled into an achy ball, but the blood-vessel dilation brought on by a good long smooching session can really help ease your pain. In fact, Demirjian recommends replacing the ol' "Not tonight, dear -- I have a headache" line with, "Honey, I have a headache. Come kiss me!""如果你头痛或月经痉挛，接吻是伟大的，"德米尔坚说。当你卷曲成一个疼痛的球时，你可能倾向于挥动前进，但是长时间的抽搐会带来的血管扩张确实可以帮助减轻你的痛苦。事实上，德米尔坚建议用"亲爱的，今晚不行，我头疼"来代替"亲爱的，我头痛"来吻我吧！3. Kissing fights cavities亲吻打败蛀牙A smooch-a-thon gets all, er, fluids flowing -- including your saliva. "When you're kissing, you're secreting more saliva in your mouth," says Demirjian. "That's the mechanism that washes away the plaque on your teeth that leads to cavities." (So much more fun than gargling!)拥抱接吻使所有的液体流动，呃，包括你的唾液。当你接吻时，你嘴里会分泌更多的唾液，"德米尔坚说。"这就是洗掉牙齿上导致蛀牙的斑块的机制。（比漱口有趣多了！）4. Kissing amps up your happy hormones亲吻能让你的荷尔蒙激增"If you're feeling stressed or rundown, a little kissing or lovemaking [is] actually the elixir you need to... feel better," says Demirjian. "It will relax, restore and revitalize you.... The feel-good chemicals in the brain get percolating: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin -- things you can get from the rush of exercising.""如果你感到压力或精疲力尽， 一点点接吻或做爱 [是] 实际上是你需要的灵丹妙药...感觉好多了，"德米尔坚说。"它会放松，恢复和振兴你。大脑中感觉良好的化学物质会渗透：血清素、多巴胺、催产素——你可以从匆忙的锻炼中得到的东西。5. Kissing burns (a few) calories亲吻燃烧卡路里It can't compare to 30 minutes on the elliptical, but a vigorous makeout session can burn 8 to 16 calories per smooch, says Demirjian. "Kissing and lovemaking can be a vigorous exercise if you're fully engaged," she says. "You need to have a passionate kiss [in order to burn those calories], but it doesn't have to be a 10-hour makeout session."德米尔坚说，这不能与椭圆上的30分钟相比，但有一个有活力的化妆舞会每个拥吻可燃烧8到16卡路里。她说："如果你全身心投入，接吻和做爱可能是一种积极的锻炼。"你需要有一个充满激情的吻[为了燃烧这些卡路里]，但它不必是一个10小时的化妆舞会。6. Kissing boosts self-esteem接吻能增强自尊One German study found that men who got a nice juicy kiss from their wives before leaving for work made more money. "If he leaves his home happy, he's more productive at work because he's not feeling emotionally distressed, so he's going to make more money," explains Demirjian. "Kissing has so much to do with your self-esteem and feeling loved and connected."一项德国研究发现，那些在上班前从妻子那里得到了多汁吻的男人赚了更多的钱。如果他快乐地离开家，他在工作中会更有效率，因为他不会感到情绪低落，所以他会赚更多的钱，"Demirjian解释道。"接吻与你的自尊心、被爱的感觉和联系有很大关系。7. Kissing can give you a facelift (kind of)接吻可以给你整容（有点）Per Demirjian, deep kissing can shape up the neck and jawline, which are often trouble spots for those concerned about looking older. "Your mouth has a number of facial muscles," she says. "When those are engaged in kissing, you can tighten and tone them."根据德米尔坚，深吻（涉及内唇、舌头和牙齿的广泛或密集接触，特别是长时间或有节奏的舌对舌接触。）可以塑造颈部和下巴，这往往是那些担心看起来老的麻烦点。"你的嘴有很多面部肌肉，"她说。"当那些从事接吻，你可以收紧和调和他们。8. Kissing is a barometer for sexual compatibility接吻是性相容性的晴雨表It can be an excellent way to check out a potential partner for sexual compatibility before getting naked and emotionally involved, says Demirjian. But if your very first liplock with a new partner is meh, she recommends giving him or her one more shot.德米尔坚说，在裸体和情感介入之前，这可以是一个很好的方式来检查潜在的性相容性伴侣。但是， 如果你与新伴侣的第一个唇锁是没有兴趣或感到无聊， 她建议再给他或她一次机会。"Sometimes during the first kiss, people are feeling awkward, nervous or embarrassed," she says. "That might not breed the most seductive, sexy experience." Second kiss is crappy, too? That's your cue to take your lips -- and the rest of you -- elsewhere."有时在初吻期间，人们会感到尴尬、紧张不安为难的，"她说。"这可能不会滋生最诱人、最性感的体验。第二个吻也很糟糕？该轮到你，把你的嘴唇 - 你的舌头 - 触碰对方。16 Benefits of Kissing: How It Affects Your Mental and ...https://www.healthline.com/health/benefits-of-kissinghttps://www.wikihow.com/KissHow to Kiss

1Drop hints that you're interested. You can put out some subtle signals that you're angling for a kiss without coming right out and saying it. Here's how to communicate it romantically:Get caught looking (briefly) at the other person's lips.Don't purse your lips. Keep them softly parted — not so much that you could breathe comfortably through the opening, but enough that you could bite your bottom lip easily.Make your mouth appealing. Use chapstick or lipgloss to smooth over flaky lips, and keep your breath fresh with mints or spray. Avoid gum, which you might have to spit out awkwardly if the other person goes in for a kiss.

2Break the kiss barrier (optional). If you're feeling brave, test the waters with a small kiss on the hand or the cheek. If the other person seems interested, it's probably safe to proceed with a kiss on the mouth.If you're kissing a girl: Take her hand and slowly lift it to your mouth. Gently press your lips into the back of your hand for 2 or 3 seconds before breaking away.If you're kissing a guy: Lean in and plant a 2- or 3-second kiss on his cheek. Keep your lips soft, and avoid puckering like you would if you were kissing a family member. If you want your intentions to be extra clear, aim for the part of his cheek just to the side of his lips.

3Set the mood with a romantic compliment. Go big and pay the other person the sincerest compliment you can think of. If you get it right, the other person might take the lead and lean in to kiss you.Say it in an intimate way. Lower the volume and tone of your voice slightly, and lock eyes. Not only does this communicate that you have deep feelings for this person, it entices him or her to come closer to hear you.Focus on an alluring quality. Even if you truly think that your date is an amazing basketball player, now might not be the best time to bring it up. Instead, base your compliment on how you see your date as a romantic partner. Try these lines:"You are SO beautiful.""Your eyes drive me crazy.""I love to see you smile.""I am so lucky to be with you right now."

4Consider asking for a kiss directly. If all else fails, go for broke and state your intentions. If your date hasn't picked up on any of your hints and you're dying to lock lips, you might as well be straightforward and just ask if you can kiss him or her. Don't worry, though — you can be direct while still being romantic and compelling. Try these phrases if you're at a loss for words:"I'd love nothing more than to kiss you right now.""I'm sorry if this is too forward, but I'd really like to kiss you.""I want to kiss you so much that it is just about killing me."

5Go in for the kiss. Don't waste any time once you have the go-ahead — close your eyes, lean in and smooch![2] The next sections will discuss some kissing techniques, as well as how to handle kissing in different dating situations such as a first kiss or kissing after a date.Part2Kissing Techniques

1Keep your lips soft. Tense puckers are for family members or people you're obligated to kiss, but keeping your mouth slightly parted and soft communicates a sense of openness.

2Do a few soft kisses. Start slow with soft, gentle kisses and skip the tongue and the teeth — for now. If your partner seems receptive, you can move forward to French kissing.Try to avoid letting your lips smack. The noise can be distracting, and might break your immersion in the moment. If you do find yourself smacking, slow down and part your lips a bit more.Stay light at first. Avoid smashing your lips against your date's mouth — for now. Kissing softly and gently gives the other person the chance to stop if it's uncomfortable, as well as allowing you to gauge his or her interest.[3]

3Stay at a manageable level of saliva. Slobbery puppies are the last thing you want your date thinking of while you kiss him or her. Avoid this fate by swallowing excess saliva occasionally. If you notice that your lips are a bit too wet, pull away and discreetly purse them to bring the extra spit back into your mouth.[4]

4"Lock" lips. If your initial kisses have gone well, try a lip lock, which can lead to closer kisses (and is a nice gateway for French kissing). Basically, you'll "stack" your lips so that (for instance) it looks like this:Your lower lipYour partner's lower lipYour upper lipYour partner's upper lipAt first, putting your partner's lower lip between yours is the safest bet. Most people have larger lower lips, making them easier to grab gently with your lips.

5Make sure to breathe. Ideally, you'll be able to breathe softly through your nose while you're kissing. If that's not possible, though, break away for a second to take a breath.Don't feel self-conscious about being out of breath or needing to take a break for a second. Breathing hard is an indication that you're nervous and excited, which your partner will probably find flattering.

6Use your hands. Don't just let your hands hang at your sides like two limp fettuccini noodles — put them to good use![5]Place your hands lightly on your partner's shoulders or around his or her waist. (In Western culture, girls generally put their hands on a boys shoulders while he puts his hands around her waist.)Take the intimacy up a notch by pulling your partner in closer.Put your hands on the sides of his or her face, using your thumb to sweep across the cheekbone, or put one hand under his or her chin and tilt it upward.[6]Another seriously sensual move is to put both hands around the back of your partner's head and tangle them in his or her hair, gently pulling.

7Test using tongue. Once you're in a lip lock with your partner's lower lip between both of yours, lightly run the tip of your tongue over it. If you can move it slowly, even better.See how your partner responds. If he or she presses in closer or returns the gesture, you're probably clear to keep increasing the intensity of the kiss. If your date pulls away, maybe it's best to pull back the tongue for now and stick to lips-only kisses.[7]

8Try French kissing (optional). Using your tongue during a kiss is, in Western culture, referred to as a French kiss. Why do the French get the credit? Who knows! Here's how to get started:Sweep your tongue along the inside of your partner's lower lip. Try to move slowly and lightly at first, increasing speed and pressure only if your partner seems to respond well.Slide the tip of your tongue inside your partner's mouth and gently move it against the tip of his or her tongue. Use light, darting motions and keep your tongue moving — letting it sit limply in your partner's mouth isn't appealing and will bring a quick end to the kissing.[8]Try deeper and harder strokes if your partner seems responsive.

9Mix it up. Don't feel obligated to keep the intensive tongue activity going forever. Alternate soft and hard, slow and fast, deep and shallow. You can even go back to using only your lips for a few minutes.Alternating your technique will keep your partner from being able to predict what's coming next. Maintaining this sense of surprise and spontaneity helps your kisses avoid becoming stale.

10Gently nibble your partner's lips (optional). Teeth aren't a necessary element of kissing, but a grazing them over your partner's lip can introduce another unexpected element. Here are some quick pointers:Keep the pressure as light as possible. Remember that you're aiming to nibble, not bite.Move slowly. Again, keeping your pace gentle will help prevent accidentally chomping on your partner's lip.When your lips are locked, place your teeth over your partner's lower lip and slowly pull back until your teeth are almost at the end of the lip. Pause for a moment, then resume kissing as usual.Don't break out the biters too much. They should be an occasional perk, not the main attraction.Be prepared for rejection. Not everyone likes a side of teeth with their kisses. If your partner doesn't respond well, try not to be too offended — it's probably a matter of personal taste, not a lapse in your technique.

11Increase the intensity with occasional breaks. Pull away for a moment to look into your partner's eyes, whisper something in his or her ear, or simply catch your breath and marvel at your good fortune.[9]Instead of putting a damper on the action, these small moments can actually make kissing more intimate. It gives your partner the sense that you see him or her as a complete person, and not simply something to kiss.Part3Having Your First Kiss

1Try to pick a trustworthy partner. Smooching someone you trust can ease a lot of the anxiety of your first kiss. If you knew you were giving someone his or her first kiss you'd try to be patient and understanding, so expect the same of your partner.Keep in mind that an awkward first kiss isn't the end of the relationship (or the world). Actually, it can build intimacy through having a shared experience. As long as you can laugh it off, you'll be fine.Remember, everyone has gone through having their first kiss. Odds are that most people are more awkward about it than you'll be, even if you don't know it.

2Prepare your mouth. Use chapstick or lipgloss to smooth over chapped lips, and brush your teeth and tongue well. If your mouth feels a little stale, use breath mints or spray to freshen up.[10]Knowing that your mouth is clean and appealing can help you feel more confident about kissing.That being said, though, don't feel like you need to obsess over cleanliness. Most mouths just "taste" warm, unless you've recently eaten something pungent (like onions or garlic) or you've just woken up in the morning.[11]

3Don’t rush. You only get one first kiss! Unless you’re both so overwhelmed with desire that you have to kiss right now or the world will end, draw it out. It can be tremendously exciting and sensual to tease the kiss before it happens, keeping eye contact the whole time.[12]

4Let the other person take the lead (optional). If you're nervous about not knowing the right techniques, let your partner initiate what happens during the kiss. Imitate what he or she does until you're comfortable trying your own moves.EXPERT TIP

MOSHE RATSON, MFT, PCCMarriage & Family TherapistWhat kind of hints work? Moshe Ratson, couples counselor, tells us: "To show someone you're interested in kissing, try lowering your voice and leaning in slightly while you speak. You can even whisper into their ear. Get physically closer than normal. Also consider mirroring your partner's body language."

5Take a few calculated risks. As you become more comfortable with kissing, try to take the lead on initiating kisses or working on new techniques. If your partner doesn't respond well, simply write it off as personal preference and try something else.Part4Kissing After a Date

1Get close. Since the possibility of a goodbye kiss always beckons—and assuming it’s your desire—it’s best to start getting close sooner than later. Otherwise, you will find yourself saying your goodbyes with what feels like a chasm between you, making the swoop in for the kiss very conspicuous and awkward.Guys, this is when you get the dreaded last-minute-turn-and-kiss-on-the-cheek routine, which is second only to the phrase, “You remind me of my brother,” for most-deflating date ending. As you walk your date to the car, the door, etc., put your hand (or a jacket) on your date’s shoulder or back. This breaks the touch barrier, gently lets your date know your intentions, and gives you an excuse to stand very close all at the same time.

2Watch your date’s reaction. If your date angles his or her body away from you or speeds up to create distance, don’t try to complete the goodnight kiss—and don’t let your ego make a fool of you.[13] Simply flash a big smile, thank them for the lovely time, and go about your business. It could simply be that your date isn’t ready to kiss yet.

3Maintain eye contact. Making eye contact while standing close is a universally acknowledged indicator that a post-date kiss is about to take place.[14]If the eye contact becomes too long, break and reestablish it as necessary; it’s better to let your eyes dart around than subject your date to an interrogation-style stare down. One good way to break eye contact while maintaining the romance is to glance down at your date’s lipsIt may feel awkward to make your desires so clear, just remember that by giving your date a heads-up, you will make the kiss go much more smoothly and improve the odds that it will turn into a glorious make out session. Trying to plant a kiss by surprise, on the other hand, may result in bumped noses and teeth, a startled pullback, and much awkwardness.

4Stop the conversation. When people get nervous, they often compensate by finding anything to talk about, killing the kissing opportunities.While you shouldn’t try to end the conversation abruptly, which might come across as trying to get over with your goodbyes, you shouldn’t encourage your date to ramble, either.Let the chatter die down by keeping your responses friendly but minimal.

5Consider breaking the kiss barrier. If everything is going well but you’re not quite ready to dive into full-blown romantic kissing, lean in for a hug and kiss the person on the cheek.Don’t confuse this with a friendly peck smack in the middle the cheek; make your feelings clear by placing the kiss close to the ear or mouth and letting your lips linger for a second, or whisper something flirty in their ear with lips touching. This will help the other person know that the kiss isn't meant in a platonic context.

6Keep it simple. If this is a first kiss with this person—or, more importantly still, a first date—don’t overdo it. Keep your lips softly parted and either plant a straightforward kiss on your partner’s lips or up the ante by gently locking lips.Resist the temptation to kiss hard or with tongue, unless you've been chasing this person for quite some time. It might seem too forward and shut down future opportunities.

7Follow your date’s lead. Pay attention to how your date responds and moves during the kiss. If they lean closer or linger, you may be able to transition into more romantic kissing; otherwise, end the kiss by pulling slowly back, reopening your eyes to make eye contact, and smiling.[15]Part5Non-Romantic Kissing

1Pucker your lips. Having your lips puckered keeps them tight and somewhat closed, indicating that you're unwilling to open your mouth for more intimacy. Most people will read a pucker as strictly platonic.To know if you're puckering your lips correctly, kiss in the air. How loud is the kissing noise? It should be a clearly audible "pop" of your lips as you part them while sucking air in. A romantic kiss will barely make this noise because your lips are much more relaxed.

2Make your intentions clear. If you want to kiss someone on the cheek and that someone is at risk of misinterpreting your intentions, make it clear that you're not going for the mouth by turning your head off to the side before you lean in. Try to plant the kiss squarely in the middle of the cheek so that it's not veering for more romantic areas such as the ear or mouth.[16]If you're uncomfortable actually kissing the other person's skin, try air kissing. Lean in so that your cheek is touching the side of the other person's cheek, and kiss the air with a few quick and audible puckers. For extra effect, pull back, switch sides, and do it again.

3Keep it brief. The amount of time your lips spend on the other person's cheek or lips should be limited to whatever it takes to make that kissing noise described in the previous step—nothing more. If your lips linger, it won't seem so platonic.

4Kiss out of respect or worship. Bow or kneel before the other person. Look up in respect. Remain in this position during the kiss. Take the person's hand gently and bring it close to your lips.Community Q&AQuestionHow can I get better at kissing?

wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerThe best way to get better is to practice! Kiss your partner as much as possible and try different techniques to get a sense of what you both like. Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. Say something like, “Did you like that?” or “How do you want me to kiss you?”Not Helpful 156Helpful 262QuestionWhat do I do if someone I like is moving in for a first kiss?

wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerIf you want them to kiss you, just relax and go with the flow. Lean in or put a hand on their shoulder or face to let them know you want the kiss. You might also close your eyes so you feel the experience more deeply. If you want them to French kiss you, open your lips slightly. If you’re not ready to kiss, pull back gently and say something like, “I like you, but I’m not ready for that yet.”Not Helpful 46Helpful 295QuestionWhat are some different ways to kiss?

wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerThere are a million different ways to kiss, so experiment around and use your imagination! For example, in addition to classic kisses on the mouth, you can also try kissing your partner’s cheeks, neck, forehead, or even eyelids. Experiment with making your kisses slow and gentle or more firm and aggressive (as long as your partner is into it). You can also try just grazing your partner’s lips with your own for a more teasing kiss.Not Helpful 54Helpful 144QuestionI want to kiss my girlfriend but she won't do it. What do I do?

Community AnswerIt's very important to treat your girlfriend with respect and let her make up her own mind. Be patient and find other ways to be intimate, like hugging or cuddling.Not Helpful 355Helpful 3376QuestionI said "no" when he asked me for a kiss, but only because I didn't want to kiss in public. How do I show him I'm interested?

Community Answer"Take me somewhere private and ask me again."Not Helpful 395Helpful 3818QuestionMy boyfriend wants to kiss me, but I'm not ready yet. I want my first kiss to be a proper one, and my parents don't even know I'm dating yet. Do you have any tips?

Community Answer告诉他您还没有准备好，当他试图将您推入其中时，这会让您感到不舒服。对您的意见保持自信，并根据自己的意愿做出决定。无用 361有用的 2649问题我该如何应对接吻的焦虑？

社区答案如果您因为还没有初吻而感到焦虑，请不要担心。只要您的嘴唇接触到，它就会变得更容易。如果您极度害怕接吻（例如，由于创伤事件），请与治疗师联系。无用 266有用的 1809问题第一次接吻后我们能谈些什么？

社区答案无需计划。即使你们保持沉默，你们俩都会享受彼此的同在。没有帮助 210有用的 1360问一个问题提交视频尖端活在当下。如果您的思维不在其他地方，您也不会接吻。例如，在接吻时，尽量避免出现诸如“他/她在想什么？”，“我今晚看起来好吗？”之类的想法。不要太自觉，或者 如果可以帮助的话，也不要在接吻之外有 任何想法。相反，请专注于对方嘴唇对您的感觉。如果您没有获得所期望的接吻，则可能需要阅读“ 如何处理常见的接吻问题” 以解决许多人遇到的问题。您可以 在沉迷于表演之前检查自己是否是一个 很好的接吻者。这样可以防止将来出现尴尬。警示语请注意，接吻（尤其是深吻）可能传播传染性病毒，例如单纯疱疹或传染性单核细胞增多症（单核）。[17]